Wife drags husband to court over sex starvation

A wife, Usman Aisha, has dragged her husband, Ibrahim to a Lugbe grade 1 area court in Abuja over his inability to satisfy her during love making.

Aisha said she spent one month with Ibrahim after their marriage and he always arose her but refused to satisfy her when making love to her, The News Agency Of Nigeria (NAN) reports. She said in a bid to rectify the situation, she pleaded so bitterly to him to satisfy her but he refused to change. Aisha said Ibrahim would threaten to beat her whenever she called him so that they could sit and discuss the issue, she said the situation had not improved even after she reported the matter to both parents. “I intentionally left our house for months after he refused to change but he never care to look for me. “Though when I was with him for one month, he feeds me well, but when it comes to sex matters it will turn to fight. I am a woman and I have feelings for him. “He has failed in his matrimonial obligations, I am totally fed up, please sir, separate us. I am no more interested in the marriage,’’ she said. She begged the court to dissolve the 10 months old marriage to enable her move on with her life. On his part, Ibrahim denied all the allegations but conceded to the dissolution of the marriage because he was also fed up with the union. “I take good care of her and provide all she wants. Please my Lord, do as she wishes, I have tried my best to settle with her but all my effort prove abortive. I am also fed up,’’ he said.

In his judgment, the judge, Mr Garba Ogbede, said that the marriage had broken down irretrievably and efforts to reconcile them proved abortive. “Since both parties consented to the dissolution of their marriage, this court has no choice than to dissolve the marriage. “The couple can no longer stay together because the marriage has broken down totally; both parties are no longer husband and wife, they are free to go their separate ways. “Both parties are to keep the peace all the time; any violation of the order should be reported to the police for redress,” Ogbede held.

Paul Nnanwobu (Dallas, Texas), in his comment, believes that "Marriage is not about all sex and gratification of sexual appetite. To love is to lay down one's life fir the other. Some women are naturally frigid and satisfaction usually takes longer. There are couples who have had children and been married for more than six years yet the woman has never reached orgasm. So many women and men are disoriented about marriage and are ill prepared to absorb the emotional elemental in matrimony. This issue of the reported couple should have been solved if they have asked for help. The crux may not be about sex. They have still some untold stories."

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