5 Reasons Young Single Men Boycott Early Marriage

Ideally, the subject of marriage ought to be fascinating considering the fact that it creates a sense of fulfillment for some  marriage enthusiasts. But research has shown that some either out rightly deter early marriage or prefer to be single in spite the perceived fulfillment marriage might offer.

I remember asking some single men in their mid-twenties just three weeks ago, about when they would like to settle down, and they laughed it off. Most of them said they will be getting married when they are approaching 40. The story is totally different for the ladies in their age group.

Naij.com had interaction with some single men who gave their opinions on why they wouldn’t want to marry early.

1. Financial Insecurity The single men gave Naij.com the impression that the unfavorable economic situation in the country and personal financial constraints do not encourage them to get marry early. As a result, the fear of not starving their immediate family members zero their thoughts ‘‘if am not made, marriage is not an option,” one of them quipped.

They hope to get a sustainable means of income, comfortable accommodation and every other thing that would give them sense of financial security before walking a woman down the aisle.

2. Fear of responsibilities Marriage is full of responsibilities since it involves catering for the well being of more people (wife and children). The single men interviewed feel responsibility would force them to grow up and makes life harder. They seem not to be confident they can handle responsibilities, emergencies and the emotional instability attached to marriage.

3. Commitment Survey done by this medium showed that most of these men also deter early marriage for fear of being committed. They feel marriage or being hooked to a woman would create a boring moment or kill funs. ”Guys have it in mind that you can never experience romantic sexual variety again without breaking your vows because they believe the grass is always greener on the other side (there are millions of beautiful women out there). ”I can’t be committed to a lady now. I just need to have fun now and perhaps I can be focused when I get married” one of the respondents said. They also have the mind set marriage would create a distance between them and their ”gangs, boys, goons”.

4. Youthful Exuberance Acts of exuberance most times make these guys believe they can make new female friends rather then getting married early so as not to limit freedom, privacy and other liberty enjoyed by singles.

5. Divorce The alarming rate of divorce and the fear of not being cut in the web also contribute to the reasons young single men don’t want to join the train. Bad or unpalatable testimonies, tales of divorcees and the trauma seem to discourage them to marry early. Interestingly, there are other positive and objective reasons some of the respondents claim wouldn’t permit they get married early. These include the need for self and career development ”I would rather get married late and be happy than start early and regret it,” one of the interviewees said. However, it is an open secret that there is no perfect marriage since there are no perfect human beings. Irrespective of the flaws, there are examples of couple who chose to weather the storm and they stay happy after. Research has shown that most marriages do have teething problems at the early stage while marriage may or may not be a necessary hurdle for some. But the reality is that each man or woman takes responsibility for his or her action or inaction as deem fit.