Some issues to consider in your Marriage

Marriage is a union between two people. Today many people show how happy their marriages are on social websites but statistics today on marriage in the United Kingdom show that this is not the case for most people (Ref).

Many people are  unhappy in their marriages. The reasons for this include but are not limited to sacrificing your marriage for your career and personal ambition, infidelity, abuse and poor communication (Ref).

Being married should not make anyone feel imprisoned or unhappy. It is a companionship that should be mutually enjoyed and not endured. Continue...

10 questions to ask yourself to help you check that your marriage is healthy:

1. Are you exaggerating the negatives? For the next two months mark the good and bad days on your calendar to get a reality check.

2. Have you already left the marriage by emotionally withdrawing? Or by giving up all attempts to make the relationship better? If so, can you find a way to reengage?

3. Do you get so angry that you hit each other or throw things at least once a month? If the answer is yes, are you hanging on to a terrible relationship because you're afraid of being alone? Or because you're convinced it's the best you can do? 

4. If you're frustrated because your husband won't change (you'd like him to be more forceful or manly, for example), is it really necessary that he does? Is there anything in your family history that may be driving your need to transform him? (Your father never stood up for you when you needed him.) 

5. Have you been teaching your husband the wrong lessons by not challenging his hurtful behaviour? (You don't say anything when he criticizes you in public. He never washes the dishes, so you just do them, resentfully.)

6. Do you have fun together? Even when things are tough, do you make jokes about it? (A good sign.) If not, can you make time in your marriage for more play? (Remember to always pray and play together.)

7. Are there conflicts that you've avoided in the relationship? What do you fear would happen if you confronted them?

8. Do you simply need more time alone? A weekend on your own every so often to make the heart grow fonder? 

9. Has something occurred—a death, a big birthday, a job loss—that's throwing off your relationship and needs to be addressed? 

10. Have you done everything you possibly can to make this marriage work? Are you certain he has heard your complaints? Have you tried a marriage-education class or couples therapy? If he won't go to counseling, have you gone yourself to see how you might save the relationship?

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