Reasons Sex Is Important in Marriage!

The best thing about marriage is having a long-lasting shared attraction for one another. Sex is among the ways couples can be vulnerable and comfortable with one another.

Sexual frequency in marriage can change over time, but sex does not have to get boring in a long-term relationship. As the years go by and you get older, your intimate relationship should get better. Sex with your partner can become more satisfying because you know each other's likes, dislikes, habits, and preferences.

We know that life can get in the way. Chores, kids, finances, work, stress, and other issues can put a damper on romance or even contribute to sexual problems in a marriage. These everyday factors can interfere with both your desire for sex and finding the time to put in the effort. But don't put sex last on the to-do list. There are ways to prioritize sex and keep it exciting.

It’s shocking how many married couples don’t get to enjoy sex in their unions. What they don’t understand is the strong link between sex and marriage. In fact, research shows that couples who engage in sex at least once a week lead happier lives.

It’s worth having an open and healthy conversation about sex if we feel we aren’t having enough of it. The last thing we would desire is to live in a sexless marriage or have unsatisfied sexual needs.

How important is sex in marriage regardless of the years spent together? In this guide, we’ll discover some reasons we need sex in a healthy marriage:

1. It Boosts Intimacy

Having regular sex can breed intimacy in marriage for a long time. During each sexual encounter that leads to orgasms, our bodies release the hormone oxytocin. This hormone makes us feel closer to each other and strengthens our bond.

Without intimacy in marriage, it’s easy for us to break our connection. If we don’t take any measures to bring back our sex life, we’ll feel far apart as a couple. Sex helps us ignite the fire that once brought us together.

When having sex, we reveal the innermost parts of ourselves to our partners. We deeply trust in them not to judge our flaws and take us as we are. Sex allows us to put our vulnerabilities aside and get lost in the moment.

We risk extinguishing the fire between us if we skip out on sex due to selfish reasons. Having intercourse will remind us of what we mean to each other. We get a deeper meaning to our relationship the more we make time for sex.

2. Relieves Stress

Outside marriage, we have other responsibilities that we need to handle. It may be stressful to balance between work/school and marriage. We may also become stressed when faced with a life-altering event.

A sexless marriage can put us at risk of stress no matter our gender, social status, or age. When stressed, our pulse rates and blood pressure rise while our blood sugar levels may rise. If we fail to manage stress, we risk having insomnia, migraines, and reduced immunity.

Though stress can lower our desire for sex, we shouldn’t downplay the importance of having sex. Having intercourse can make us feel less stressed and put us in a better mood. That’s because orgasms boost the production of dopamine in our brains to relieve stress.

A good mood can make us have more physical affection with our partners. Our sex drives can also improve when we’re in a good mood.

A good sexual relationship releases tension in our daily lives as we can complement the sex with kissing, hugging, and cuddling to relieve stress even more.

3. Equips Us to Do Life Together

It’s no secret that marriage vows keep us committed to one another. However, vows without action may seem like mere words and cause a marriage to derail. That’s why we need to have sex to renew the hope of pursuing life as a couple.

Doing life with a spouse has its ups and downs that we should learn to address. We need to find ways that will motivate us to achieve goals together. Having regular sex can help us discover the unity that we officiated by exchanging marriage vows.

Through sexual intimacy, we remind each other of the journey we’re supposed to pursue together. Sex takes us back to the early days of our marriage when we were excited about forming a union. It leads us to the oneness we once dreamed of.

4. Make us Feel Wanted by Our Partners

Sex is a proven way to raise testosterone levels, which boosts our libido. Each time we have sex, our desire for intercourse improves. And if the sex ends in an orgasm, we feel more confident about our bodies.

Sexual intimacy can alter our hormone levels and boost self-esteem. It helps us understand our bodies and sexual needs better. We’ll also find it more comfortable talking with our partners about these desires. Sometimes attending marriage counselling can help couples improve their communication and face any issues or unresolved conflicts in their relationship.

Having sex allows us to shift our attention from our perceived flaws to our strongest attributes. It helps us establish our standards for attractiveness no matter how we look. We won’t have to be insecure about things beyond our control when surrounded by our partners.

Sex directs our minds into receiving or giving pleasure. It helps us be confident about immersing ourselves deeply into the intercourse. We should never forget that it takes a deep emotional connection rather than a perfect body to enjoy sex.

5. Helps Us Model a Healthy Relationship for Our Kids

For married couples with children, sexual intimacy can make us better role models. Our kids will learn more about marriage from watching us. They get to see that we are authentically affectionate around each other.

It’s easier for us to display affection in public when we have regular sex. Besides our children, other people around us can notice the spark. Sex will make us put more effort into strengthening our marriage for our family’s sake.

Even when we are having kids for the first time, we should find ways to reignite our sexual intimacy. We shouldn’t let our busy schedules or parenting responsibilities consume our intimate time.

6. Increased Levels of Commitment

Sex, in all, is about intimacy, pleasure, and sexual expression. Sex helps build a stronger bond between the couple and develop a deeper sense of intimacy in a loving relationship.

The loving physical contact releases endorphins that help induce a feeling of well-being and the feeling of being loved. These endorphins also increase the desire to bond between spouses, resulting in cuddling and holding each other specifically right after sex.

They feel the attraction towards each other and being aware of the fact that your partner is attracted to you helps boost self-esteem. It makes them feel desirable and much more confident in their daily lives.

Moreover, being able to satisfy each other sexually, spouses tend to connect emotionally. Sexual satisfaction is closely related to the overall quality of life.

7. Elevated Moods

Physical intimacy brings about a positive attitude. Both the partners feel good about themselves as well as realize that their partner is still very much interested in them. This helps reduce insecurity, especially among women, and makes the spouses want each other more.

Having an attraction for each other results in no tension among the spouses and sex is never considered a responsibility but rather an act of pleasing and attaining pleasure. Moreover, sex is known to relieve depression and reduce levels of stress.

Frequent sex is known to release endorphins that help to make you feel good, fight off depression, and lower irritability. Another importance of sex in a relationship is that during sexual stimulation the hormone oxytocin is released, which aids with bonding and feelings of connectedness and security. It’s not difficult to see how this alone can benefit your marriage.

Apart from improving your mood and increasing happiness, sex is known to work as a stress relief. It also helps to improve an individual’s sense of self-worth or self-image.

8. Improved Immunity

Physical intimacy also leads to the release of an antibody called immunoglobulin A. This helps protect the body against diseases. It also helps release other anti-inflammatory chemicals in the body that repair worn out and damaged tissues in the body and hence, enhance immunity.

Sexual activity has numerous health benefits. According to research, people who have sex regularly lead healthier lifestyles than others as sex helps improve overall fitness.

Frequent sex is known to release endorphins that help to make you feel good, fight off depression, and lower irritability. Another importance of sex in marriage is that during sexual stimulation the hormone oxytocin is released, which aids with bonding and feelings of connectedness and security. It’s not difficult to see how this alone can benefit your marriage.

9. Sex Is An Excellent Workout

A study found that during 30 minutes of sex your body would typically burn around 3.6 calories per minute. That is equal to climbing a flight of stairs or doing some brisk walking. So, if you don’t have time for the treadmill, regular sex could be a fairly good (and much more enjoyable) substitute.

Also, oxytocin is released during orgasm achieved through sexual activity. Oxytocin carries a calming effect and the ability to promote a much peaceful sleep for both partners.

Now You Know the Importance of Sex in Marriage

Besides being a gateway for pleasure, sex cultivates affection and love in a marriage. It helps us express our care and love for someone without using words. Understanding the importance of sex in marriage can help us lead happy lives together.

Married couples having difficulties with sexual intimacy should consult with Licensed Marriage Therapist.

 

Source: Jousline Savra, Marriage Advice